I had been in a funk lately. Focusing on the negative. Never feeling like I was good enough at anything. I felt like I was failing. Like there was never enough time. As if one bad moment would ruin a day.
I needed a change.
While reading a blog post or some articles for work (I don't recall now), I came across a great article on www.scrawnytobrany.com on focusing on the positive - so fitting for where I am/was, particularly since my "One Little Word 2013" is "Focus" and one of my 2013 action items is to focus on the good stuff.
So, when I felt like my day wasn't going great, or as planned, I named off 3 good things for the day. I encouraged the kids to do the same, when they felt like they weren't having a good day. They didn't have to be significant things. In fact, the point was to recognize the small things that, as a whole, make up a pretty darn good life. It was amazing how well the refocusing worked.
Starting this past week, I decided to take it to another level. Always a journaler, I document our daily lives in a notebook. I decided to start a running list - 3 positives from every day. Last week looked like this:
Sunday: 1. Celebrating my mom's 73rd birthday with family. 2. Pancakes, eggs & little sizzlers for breakfast - a favorite. 3. Cake. With chocolate frosting. And Sprinkles.
Monday: 1. Waking up with Vegas the Pug in our bed. 2. An unexpected day at home. 3. A do-over morning (it had started rough) after picking up M from Minneapolis Kids before school.
Tuesday: 1. Working at home with Ryan and D for company. 2. Running errands with my favorite girl. 3. Amazing seafood dinner and conversation with Ryan.
Wednesday: 1. A full day home with D. 2. Cuddling on the couch with 2 kids, 2 dogs and Ryan. 3. A good ending to a great trilogy (Allegiant).
Thursday: 1. Hosting Thanksgiving at our house. 2. Reading cards (B.S.) well into the evening with my brothers and family. 3. Playing Trivial Pursuit (Family Edition) with my mom and M.
Friday: 1. The lit-up Christmas tree. 2. Reading Christmas books with the kids. 3. Cuddling up on the couch watching Polar Express in front of the tree.
Saturday: 1. Glorious weather (sunshine and 30s) makes for a great treat to a playground. 2. Cuddling by a crackling fire, watch the Gophers beat Madison. 3. Discovering coconut M&Ms.
Already, I can sense a difference. A change in perspective. I expect it will take a while to take hold, but I am going to continue the practice of proactively documenting the positive moments. Adjusting my focus on the good things from the day, away from the things that go wrong.
At some point, I might find a way to document it in a little book or something (it's what I do, after all), but for now, I am going to go with the flow and find a way to just get it done in as simple of a way as posible.
I call it "The 3 Things Project" and I am determined to keep it going.